Years ago, 2010 to be exact, I started my first website: a blog called Hustler’s Notebook. I had no idea where the journey would take me, but it was something I was driven to do. Like most websites and blogs, things got off to a very slow start: no traffic, no nothing, just content I wrote during my spare time. I kept with it as I found the process rewarding as I was forced to think in a deeper manner as my mission was to help others by sharing my own experiences and approaches to personal and professional development.
One day, probably 4-6 months after starting Hustler’s Notebook, everything changed. This website went from crickets to having a roaring audience. I contribute this to two things: writing from a unique perspective, and engaging with other websites and businesses to get the word out there. Before I knew it, I was spending multiple hours per day responding to hundreds and hundreds of comments left here, as well as reading other’s material and contributing to conversations on other websites. I developed many associations with other bloggers–a handful, which I’ve remained in contact to some degree even today.
During this time, I learned (at a slow paste) how to make updates to this website. Every week I’d learn something new to the point where I could do just about anything I wanted. Eventually, some of my readers started asking me to help out with the design elements of their website. And it was then, in 2011, when I thought of making a business out of it. And here today, I’m still running Growth Effect, an agency focussing on consulting, web design and online marketing. I also run a Logic Offer a real estate investment firm.
It’s interesting to look back in the past and view the journey in which I now reside. Life is unbelievably good. God is unbelievably great.
In 2011, I was offered an opportunity to have a book published, which consisted of a handful of my blog posts from Huster’s Notebook. The articles below made the cut as these were fan favorites.
– Jk, 2019
I used to think that the more advanced the degree, the better job, and naturally, the better the pay. The reason my attitude has changed is because over the past few years, many of my professional peers have had MBA’s…and I don’t have one. So not only do I play at the same park, I’ve done so without the same credential.
Before I get too deep into this subject, I want to make it clear that for certain technical and industry-specific fields, degrees matter. You can’t become a lawyer without going to law school. You can’t become a physician without going to medical school. There’s no way around this reality. Most would agree that there should be strict regulations and educational requirements for highly complex and sensitive industries. But in my eyes, everything else is wide open.
The Black Belt Concept
Anyone can get a black belt if they dedicate themselves to doing so (I’m not insinuating that it’s easy…just saying that it’s not out of reach.) A person who reaches such a milestone will certainly know how to throw a perfect punch – at the air, and a perfect kick – at the air…but in the heat of the moment, they may not have what it takes to truly defend themselves outside of the Dojo.
Let’s apply the black belt to a college degree. Most people, given the opportunity, have the intellectual ability to get a college degree. It’s not THAT hard. And just because a person has a degree, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ll be good at any job. I took a number of speech classes in college (hated them by the way), got good grades, but I left college being pretty bad at public speaking. My grades said I was excellent, but my practical skills proved the opposite. Doing it in the real world is what helped me develop and get better at it.
Just because someone has a black belt doesn’t mean they’re ready for battle. It means that they have a high theoretical understanding of their discipline. You can learn all about swords, understand the dynamics of a sword fight, and even have perfect form. That doesn’t mean you’re ready to sword fight.
Organizations are starting to view candidates in this light. This is part of the reason why GPA’s don’t matter as much today, as they did in years past. They want people who can drive results; not people who can recite business definitions. I got A’s in each speech class that I took – and I was pretty bad at the time. If organizations looked at my A, they would think I was a great public speaker…the fact is, there’s no accurate correlation [generally speaking] between grades and real life ability. Same thing goes for degrees.
Work Ethic and Experience is the Key
I have absolutely no plan to go back to college to get an advanced degree. Why? Well because I KNOW that it would have minimal impact on me professionally, as it does for most that do so. I’m not trying to down play the major accomplishment – just saying that in the reality of my world – it wouldn’t do much to serve me.
My colleagues that have a MBA’s did receive some positive impact on their career. Which is great. I’ve done the same – without the financial burden (MBA = avg. $80k) or time investment (avg. 2-3 years).Their MBAs helped get them to the position their in…I used another method to get to the same position.
I’ve educated myself by being present and aware; by extending my learning in areas that directly contribute to my ability to do my job. I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone and taken on projects that have expanded my business intelligence. I’ve maximized on-the-job training. I take complete ownership of my role and responsibilities.
This approach has helped me become the standard in positions that I’ve taken. When you’re the standard, you become the point that others are judged from. It’s a position sure to help progress your career over what any degree can do, in my experience.
If you feel disadvantaged because you can’t fill up the Education part of your resume – don’t fear. Showcase your skill sets, accomplishments and willingness to self-educate outside of traditional study. Be willing to work harder than everyone else, which will naturally place you on the stage of being the standard. Before you know it, you’ll be working in the same peer group as those who pay thousands of dollars each month to cover student loan payments that they wish they would have done without.
I’m an Advocate of Education
From where this article has gone, you might think that I was against education. But in reality, I’m the biggest advocate of education that I know. I just try not to get caught up in academia and the prestige behind where he or she got a degree (only because it really doesn’t matter and most people don’t care).
A few months ago I shared in an article that colleges such as Yale and MIT offer free online courses open to the public. I actually take courses offered by these institutions based on subjects that I have interests in and that will help me be better at my job.
I have a lot of respect for those who have made the commitment to complete college; under graduate and graduate level. I also I have a great deal of respect for those who didn’t have the opportunity to go to college – because I think they can make just as big of a splash as the next person.
I have a bachelor’s degree. Having it served a good purpose at one point in my career. That purpose being that it satisfied a requirement to get a certain level of job when I graduated. That’s it. 75% (maybe more) of the courses that I took were pointless in the scheme of my life/career today. Who in the world needs a geology class if they don’t care one lick about rocks. How in the world can you make a Chinese Dynasty class a prerequisite, but fail to teach young adults how to manage money? The system seems a little twisted. It’s getting a little too expensive…and frankly, having a degree is more of a formality than a means for preparation.
For those of you who don’t or didn’t have the opportunity to go to college – I think you’ll be okay if you’re willing to focus and work hard. But for those who aren’t so willing to work hard, college degree or not, I’m not sure if higher ed will do a thing for you. Just because a person has a
Bottom line, college degree or not – you own your results…not some piece of paper, no abbreviations or letters after your name, not the state of the economy and surely not any excuses. If you want to win – then go do something about it…and win.
Disclaimer: I’m not advocating that anyone should pass on the opportunity to go to college. If you can go – don’t let the opportunity pass you by. But if you can’t…you now know that it’s not the crutch that society paints it to be.
In recent weeks I’ve received a number of emails asking me for tips on grasping a higher level of motivation. I found this question challenging to answer because I believe our motivation is driven by personal factors; what is important to me may not be important to someone else. While I’ve battled with this, I’ve still kept the question fresh in mind to understand how I really feel about it.
To be motivated is to be driven. To drive (be driven), you must have fuel. It’s all about the type of fuel that drives us.
Synthetic Motivation = Low Grade Fuel
Synthetic motivation is the most common. There’s an abundant supply all around us and it’s cheap. It certainly wins in the area of quantity but lacks quality. Still, this type of motivation gives us a boost in energy and enthusiasm.
We get synthetic motivation from books and phrases like: “just do it”. We get it from watching ‘rah rah’ motivational speakers that raise our energy, although its lasting effects are minimal. Additionally, being falsely optimistic and faking positive thinking are symptoms of low-grade fuel. It motivates us but it has no weight; causing it to evaporate shortly after it magically appears.
We syke ourselves out to feel ready for ‘whatever’ even when we’re not…and temporarily it works. When you don’t really feel like doing something – but you push through it anyway; that’s synthetic. Nothing bad, in fact that’s synthetic fuel at its best.
As a result of its temporary properties and it being the main source of fuel within many of us, most people experience a roller-coaster-like effect when it comes to being motivated – it constantly fluctuates up and down. This is the most common type of motivation that drives most people. Everyone uses this stuff; some more than others.
Organic Motivation = Premium Grade Fuel
Organic motivation comes from a source of inspiration that lights a fire in us to change forever, not just for the moment. This type of fuel might not make us throw our hands in the air and holler “yahoo”, but it certainly affects our heart; giving us what we need to drive to wherever we want to.
But here are the challenges: this stuff isn’t cheap, it doesn’t have the same instant gratification-like properties as synthetic fuel, and its source is far less understood. Organic motivation takes time to set in; it has to marinate before we can feel its effectiveness. And this is why we gravitate to synthetic forms of motivation…again, because it provides quick, although not lasting results.
In a society where microwaves have become too slow, Internet connections are never fast enough and poor cell phone signals make our blood boil – we’re too distracted to have the patience to fully capture what organic motivation has to offer.
We get organic motivation from the things in life that we have an unwavering appreciation for. These things include spirituality, family, love, life goals, serving others, and other life-shaping events and realities that matter most in life. When we keep these types of things at the forefront of our thoughts, we develop a drive fueled from within; from a premium grade fuel source that can last forever.
Get an Octane Boost
The difference between organic and synthetic motivation is like comparing hormone infused cows with free range grass fed cows. Both give us burgers and steaks in the immediate, but we all know which is better for us in the long run.
We’re the culprits that don’t allow organic motivation to flow. Yes, we are to blame for not having a high level of motivation to win. We find more things to complain about than to praise. We rarely celebrate our wins. We allow the worries of the world to take over our thoughts and interests. These things clog the premium grade fuel line. It can’t pump efficiently when our mindset is in such disarray.
When we honor what matters most to us and live within the perspective of our life priorities – not only does that give us the power to squeeze the handle of the premium grade fuel pump, but the auto flow lever engages allowing it to flow on its own.
The Discovery of the Hustle Factory
I used to sit back and wait for things to happen. After awhile of getting very little results, I changed my seated position to observe others who seemed to have luck working in their favor. It didn’t take long to realize that those who were getting all the luck were coincidentally the ones who were actively working towards what they wanted luck for. All of these people worked in a factory…it was odd!
I was confused. I thought to myself: “why are these lucky people working so hard in some factory when they had it made already? Why are they so focused? Why don’t they sit back, relax and enjoy the luck?”
One day while observing from a window I noticed one of the lucky folk leave the factory. He sat back and enjoyed the luck he had amassed. I think he figured that the luck would continue because of the time spent in the Hustle Factory. I thought the same thing.
Luck Has a Dependency
The once lucky fellow quickly lost his luck.
Before long he realized that his lost of luck was due to his lost in taking action. He got off his seat and marched back into the factory. And what do you know, the luck quickly re-entered his life.
Call me crazy, but I identified a theory…the harder and more focused people worked (like those in the factory), the luckier they became.
I liked my new theory. But I LOVED the old theory because it was easier: sit back, wait and hope for luck to find me. The problem: a year passed without luck paying me a visit.
The Hustle Factory Gets “Lucky” Results
One day, I finally made the commitment to pay this little Hustle Factory place a visit. I was sure that I would prove it to be a bunch of nonsense…there’s no way that I had control over the luck I did or didn’t get.
I entered The Hustle Factory…
I worked hard with optimal focus…
…Luck paid me a quick visit.
I Can’t Take the Chance on Waiting for Chance
Does luck just happen? Do we randomly get lucky for the heck of it? If we sit and hope for luck, will it arrive?
I’m not talking about anything supernatural stuff here. I’m simply making the call towards what we refer to as luck.
In my personal life, I’ve only been on the good side of luck after putting in the necessary work to receive it. Sure, random “good things” have occurred to me from time to time that I didn’t expect – but I contribute those instances as results; reaping from something I had previously sown [at the factory].
Enter the Factory and Create Your Own Luck
As you can imagine, it’s not a crowded space. Why? Because nothing is guaranteed. All the onus is on you; your ability to withstand the rigors of achieving your goals. Many enter and many leave, never to return. It’s much easier to sit back and wish for luck than to create it. But it’s also much more effective to produce luck, than to hope for it – with no action.
Are you willing to manufacture your own luck?
I wish you well (not luck)!
I’m not trying to burst any body’s bubble, but if that’s what it takes – then this article serves as my pointy needle – poking away at the misconceptions keeping us from reaching our maximum potential. I didn’t write this from the perspective of an expert; preaching that I know it all. Actually, I’m in front of the class on this one (a student). I often need to reset and remind myself to stay on track and to keep focused.
You Get What You Give
You’ve heard it before: “you reap what you sow”. So simple, yet so profound. If you’re unfamiliar, let me explain:
Every action has a definite consequence; good, bad or indifferent – depending on the action.
Example: If I plant an apple seed, I should expect an apple to grow. It would be foolish of me to expect a corn harvest. It’s that simple.
If you want certain results (reap/get), but you aren’t acting in a fashion to obtain those results (sow/give), then you’re off-balance in your expectations and hopes.
TIP: Be deliberate in your actions. Don’t just go with the flow, be definite in your direction. Be in flow. Average Joe’s get average results! It’s okay to be average if that’s what you want. But if you’re after more, you have to give more or at least give differently.
You’re Your Own Luck Factory
Sitting back, hoping and waiting for a lucky break isn’t the best strategy, I promise. The only break that may happen is your own heart after wasting days/months/years hoping for luck that never surfaces. Remember “You Get What you Give”…so if you want luck, you better do something to get it; produce it yourself.
TIP: Want to be lucky? Well make sure that your effort is in tune with your expected result.
Take Feedback Seriously, or Lightly Depending on the Feedback
How many times has someone taken the time to share advice that you completely disregarded? Maybe they said something that you didn’t like…or more so – your ego didn’t like! Take feedback from those who you respect seriousness – even if you don’t like it. What one person sees in you can be what everyone sees, except you. We need honest eyes to share how we may be perceived in the world. Relying on the eyes in the mirror are biased.
TIP: Pay close attention to feedback that you receive that hurts your feelings. It’s likely your ego that’s being hurt, which needs a nice bruising anyway.
Don’t forget the “H” Word…and I Don’t Mean Hustle
It’s inevitable to happen; you get a few wins under your belt, everything falls in place seemingly perfect and up goes the arrogance and out goes the humility.
TIP: Be grounded and humble. If you allow your fortune to go to your head, it just might fall to your feet.
So What, Be a Failure
Go ahead and take some calculated risks and pay no thought to the idea of failing. And since you’re on a role, go ahead and learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. You can’t learn success from your own successes…you have to stumble (fail) and learn from all aspects of the cycle.
TIP: Don’t limit your abilities by taking it easy on yourself. If you fail, it’s not permanent as long as you take away the significant lessons from the experience. This mentality makes it possible to always win, even in defeat.
You Own Your Results
This was the easiest article I’ve written to date. As my fingers glided around the keyboard and the glare from the light bounced off of my screen – I saw a very familiar face who needed this needle-poke for motivation [me].
All too often do we get caught up in our day-to-day tasks and forget to assess and celebrate our wins, or be honest about where you are in your journey to success. I hope this served you as it served me; a realization that we own our results through our actions…it’s simple: take ownership to elevate your results.
Does it feel too self-focused, conceited or arrogant? Whenever I write about personal branding, self-promotion or anything along those lines I feel like I’m coming off a bit shallow. But marketing is a powerful tool for a reason. Corporations spend millions upon millions of dollars on marketing efforts to create a brand, distribute the awareness of their brand, and of course to promote products and services. It’s a natural and essential part of business. This article covers the human side of the marketing coin – marketing yourself.
Self Promotion: The Road to Getting Known
To me, self promotion is a bit awkward at times. But no matter how we slice it, everything we do shapes our personal brand in one way or another. It’s a matter of us owning the promotion ourselves or allowing others to define who we are from their own perceptions or misconceptions of us. If we don’t own it, we risk being labeled in a light that doesn’t accurately represent who we are.
How to Promote your Personal Brand
It all comes down to being real. If you speak on something but never deliver, the void will always sit in the back of people’s mind about you. So it’s not a matter of saying what sounds good; it’s a matter of projecting what’s real.
Faking it until you make it won’t get you far. In time, the truth will catch up and you’ll be exposed.
A few tips to consider:
Don’t be someone else, just be you. It’s really simple and even natural if you’re honest.
Going over the top gets a negative effect…so don’t do it. Just imagine how annoying those $19.99 infomercials are on TV. Don’t be them.
Let it happen, don’t force it. It’s a thin line to walk between… and a line that you don’t want to crossover.
Marketing is a Skill. Marketing Yourself is an Art.
See, it’s not so bad is it. It’s taking the ranks into your own hand and marketing your business (yourself) in a deliberate fashion; in a light that you want to be seen in. It allows you to control the perception that others form, all while creating a name for yourself in the very image that accurately and honestly portrays who you are.
So I’m taking action to change.
Not too long ago I read a powerful article by Rob White on MindAdventure.com called Atomic Action. In short, Atomic Action is about getting stuff done and moving on to the next thing; all with total focus and without feelings of burden or stress. I started the read with the idea that my level of taking action was optimal…but reality hit me like a ton of bricks. I do in fact take action, but too often I have poor focus in concentrating on one thing at a time; I multi-task with just about everything.
After reading Atomic Action and truthfully assessing how it relates to me, I determined the following about myself (in relation to productivity):
I’ve developed a habit of being busy, not always because I have to–but because I’ve associated not being busy with being lazy.
I want nothing to do with the word average, so I work-work-work in order to keep myself disassociated with the idea of mediocrity.
My level of focus is low when my discipline to focus is low.
I allow myself to be distracted far too easy and it happens way too much.
My issue isn’t taking ACTIONS (I do that just fine); the issue is taking ACTION (one thing at a time).
I’ve allowed myself to be driven by past failures.
I initially felt a bit frustrated and unsure about this realization. But in no time, I felt a release of burden. I knew this was a lesson that I needed. It was the key allowing me to move further up the steps of personal development; a requirement to reach the massive goals that I have.
Multitasking Creeps In
This is how multitasking sneaks its way into my life:
I start the day off on the right foot; a clean slate. However, slowly, sometimes quickly, things start flashing in my mind – things that I need to get done. So, I stop what I’m doing and begin the process of 3-4 other things. As I piecemeal those tasks, something else may come to mind and I start that task too. Before I know it, I’m flat out confused and poorly juggling all kinds of stuff with very little focus to each.
Never do I execute optimally when I multitask. I end up spending much more time than I should re-doing things because I didn’t do it right the first time.
Concentration and Efficiency
Imagine a concentrated cleaning agent. The more concentrated the chemicals, the more effective the agent is when cleaning. The more diluted the chemicals, the less effective the cleaning agent is. I use to see the diluted mixture as a better bang for my buck because it yields more uses (quantity). But in reality, it just takes more attempts (because it lacks quality).
Here’s the crazy thing…the amount of concentrated solution needed to clean a given spill doesn’t change whether it’s diluted or not. So the question is why in the world do we opt to dilute our concentration in the name of getting more stuff done? Diluting our focus lowers our performance quality.
I’m taking this seriously. Rob’s Atomic Action article was life-changing for me. Once total focus becomes my default method in getting things done, I believe that some of the things I currently dream about will start being things I experience daily.
Overcome Lazy Thinking. Not having the discipline to focus on one thing at a time is an outcome of lazy thinking. I’m guilty as personally charged. Working on multiple things at once creates idleness and wastes energy. I’m going to become a more disciplined thinker by not just going with the flow. Instead, I’m going to ensure that I’m inflow with whatever I’m working on.
Push Through Resistance. Multitasking creeps in most often when we resist something that we’re working on. Instead of pushing through the resistance and overcoming it, multitaskers take the easy, yet ineffective route of believing that we have something equally important to work on. Resistance hits again and the process continues until we have way too many things to focus on at once.
Get Organized. I work best when organized. Having an organized Action/Task List in place frees my mind from having to remember each and every thing I have to do. I can simply dump and dive in when I’ve finished with one thing and ready to execute the next, instead of the contrary: relying on memory. Relying on my memory to recall 20 different things has proven to be disastrous and always leads to multitasking.
As I develop in the area of optimized productivity, I expect to become ten times more productive. I expect to get more done in far less attempts, and have more free time left over.
In time, as I become more efficient, I believe that I’ll weed out stuff that isn’t worthy of my attention; freeing me to take on bigger things, with complete focus, yielding grander results.
It’s an old school world view versus a current one. Neither one is right or wrong, or better than the other, in general. However, I think it’s important to understand the differences between the two.
I’m not advocating that anyone else take my stance or mimic the way I manage my career like a business; taking on new clients/opportunities (employment) that put my business (myself) in the best situation possible.
The Company Man
The company man’s allegiance is to his employer. His career goals are centered on working for one company until retirement, *hoping* to move up the ladder as his time progresses. His golden nugget is part job security and part comfort.
The company man’s career philosophy is a by-product of Generation X (post-WWII era) where an economy on the climb provided job security with ample room for growth. There was no reason to leave an organization, for even those who worked in the same position their entire career were able to afford their lifestyle. As a result, the company man didn’t proactively seek advancement outside of his current situation because they didn’t have to. He was loyal to his employer and expected to be rewarded for his loyalty.
The company man’s way of managing a career was conducive to the times of the past. But a new ‘way’ has been birthed because times have changed.
Birth of the Opportunist
Naturally, causes create effects. The birth of the opportunist is an effect of the times of Generation Y. Here’s a sprinkle of some of the ingredients to the cocktail responsible for birthing the opportunist (U.S. based):
multiple stock market crashes and mortgage meltdowns
industrial-size robots have taken away the need for manpower
ancient organizations have collapsed before us
we’ve witnessed government involvement in non-government business dealings (General Motors)
education has tanked–we now rank amongst third world nations in many categories.
college degrees are at an all-time high, per capita–but at an all-time low in career effectiveness
we have very little to no expectation that we’ll ever get back the Social Security tax that we pay out of each paycheck (…and what is a pension?)
we’ve witnessed huge organizations get bailed out of debt by the government while watching our neighbors loose their homes right before us.
What is an Opportunist?
Like the word hustler, the word opportunist has negative connotations that I don’t recognize. A Google search will tell you that an opportunist is a person who exploits circumstances to gain immediate advantage rather than being guided by principles or plans. I define an opportunist as someone that takes advantage of opportunities for her benefit first, completely within principle and with no intention to harm others. Her loyalty is not to a company, it’s to herself. She’s responsible.
Unlike the old school company man philosophy, the new school opportunists haven’t had the luxury of job security. At the time when jobs seemed to be the most stable, unemployment rates reached an all-time high shortly thereafter. In a business economy that mandates optimization, or trimming of the fat in order to be profitable, employees are always on the edge of the lay-off cliff. It’s a Lean economy where excess must be discarded.
Anyone who seeks the next best opportunity knows that the average Joe rarely finds that opportunity. It’s the ambitious, dynamic, creative and strategic minded people that get the most abundant opportunities. Mindful opportunists have an understanding that their next opportunity isn’t a thing of chance, rather a creation from their effort; they must manufacture their own luck.
Opportunists are game changers. They’re the folks that revamp old business practices into new ones–helping an old rigid organization become a more agile one.
It’s All Risky Business
Companies have very little loyalty to employees. It’s not that organizations are bad; it’s just the nature of the beast. In order for them to stay afloat and to remain viable, they must shave poorer performing employees as well as unneeded positions. In today’s climate, employers are demanding more hours while paying less.
I didn’t write this in hopes for people to adopt the opportunist way of managing their career. I wrote this to debunk the old school ideology that society calls ‘the right way’. There is no global right or wrong way. There’s only a right or wrong way specific to you and your situation.
Being a company man has NEVER been something that I’ve considered. I’m a product of the socioeconomic climate. My road map has been to get a promotion within one year and move on to bigger and better opportunities at the 2nd year mark. I’ve learned that this is the best way [for me] to get 15-25% salary increases each year and not be stuck with the 2.5% average (US, intra-company salary increase, 2010–which is in decline).
It’s all risky business!
This isn’t a feel good topic…it’s seemingly a bit shallow actually. But should that detour me from addressing this very prominently valid subject? NOPE! Sometimes we have to have tough conversations in order to fully hash things out.
If you don’t think that looks matter now – you may come to find out in a moment, that they actually do.
*NOTE: When I speak of looks – I’m speaking on your personal presentation only. I am not talking about physical characteristics that we have very little control over (like DNA). Sure, these do play a significant part, but that’s not the focus in this article.
I’m a realist and realize that much of what we see as our reality is really only a perception. In fact, I believe that we’re accountable for most of the elements related to the perceptions others form of us.
Looks Do Matter…Simple Proofs
We’re intelligent, visual and emotional people. And because of this, we’re affected by what we see. It’s really that simple.
– Most of the time we initiate relationships because of physical attraction first…the deal is later sealed (or not) by emotional connection.
– It’s no doubt that the image of food gets us hungry; secondarily the smell and then taste provide us with feedback needed to give it a thumbs up or down.
– We buy clothes because of how they look; followed by feel and function.
– Marketing efforts capture our eye first, then appeal to our emotions; leading us to purchase, or at minimum, gain interest.
– We tend to click the back button quickly after entering a non-visually appealing website.
– We often feel more confident when we like what we see in the mirror.+
First Impressions are based on Your Image
Here’s the deal – regardless if you take the opportunity to develop your brand in the light that most accurately and honestly depicts who you are – your brand will be built for you, possibly based on misconceptions and inaccuracies. If you don’t own your personal brand, they (everyone else) will own it for you.
It’s okay to be disliked. Everyone will not like you. PERIOD. A natural effect of being yourself is that some people will not like you for reasons you simply can’t control. But others will love you and respect you.
I Judge Books by Their Cover…and You Do To
Why? Because we are human. It just naturally happens. When we see a person for the first time, we size them up without thought. We automatically associate their appearance; the way they carry themselves, how they speak, etc. with something that we may or not be familiar with.
Imagine being in the seat of a professional recruiter and two candidates walk one in your office, both interviewing for a VP position. One candidate is well polished and the other is dressed in casual street clothes. Without speaking to either, do you form a judgment based on their appearance? Of course you do. It happens naturally without you having to strain in thought. You think “why is this person not dressed for the part?” And you may even automatically disassociate them from being a potential fit for position. In my book – this wouldn’t be an unfair conclusion.
The way you present yourself has a lot to do with how people treat you, support you and represent you. It’s important to understand that just because people shouldn’t judge you based on your appearance, doesn’t mean that they won’t. Do you know how hard it is for people who have tattoos on their hands and neck to get a job in a white collar environment? It’s tough. Of course a tattoo doesn’t mean that a person is any less qualified for the position…but it shouts certain messages about their own judgment in representing themselves. I’m not knocking tattoos at all. I’m just saying the way you present yourself has a heavy bearing on how others treat you…because looks really do matter.